During a little random blog-hopping a few days ago, I happened upon this short mpeg, courtesy of an entry on Hot Hard Cock’s blog.
Evidently, the guy on the receiving end of this particular piece of handiwork has enjoyed himself sufficiently to achieve a climactic (and doubtless entirely pleasurable) perspective. But watching the clip, I couldn’t help but view the action as a game of two halves. To begin with, the woman’s hand is frenetic in its motions; an excited, near-desperate jerking intent on nothing more than producing the gooey goods. Then there’s the second half of the film, where her hand - the evidence of her achievement already creating a slick coating across her palm and fingers - relaxes into a far more leisurely, deliberate pace.
In the same way, when MW uses a hand (or two) to stroke me to climax, her pace inevitably accelerates as my orgasm approaches. Why? Has experience taught her that to go beyond the mere acquisition of an erect penis in her palm, she has to increase her tempo markedly? Is she demonstrating an intuitive reaction to the indicators my body presents in order to provide advance warning of approaching orgasm? Or is the formula ’slow start + fast finish = ejaculating cock’ imprinted within her genetic code like some trace memory designed to guide her safely through the jungle-scape of male-female foreplay?
The thing is, whenever I masturbate myself to orgasm, my hand inevitably speeds up as I approach the moment critique. In 24-odd years, it’s a technique that’s never failed to produce the goods, and as the song/book/film/t-shirt all say, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Am I subject to the same genetic programming? But sometimes, most noticeably when it’s MW’s hand doing the pleasuring, and I can lie back and concentrate on the physical sensations, I ache to be pleasured with languid strokes that last from beginning to end. All I know is that those delicious moments when MW’s hand is gliding over my cock like it has all the time in the world are the most pleasurable, the most intense, the most exciting.
So, just for once, I don’t want to experience an escalation of acceleration, to find myself the subject of a parabolic curve that charts stroke repetitions on the vertical axis against time along the horizontal. I want to skip all those REM-style twitches and jerks aimed to yank me over the peak with practiced expectancy and aplomb.
No.
What I’d like is to have my cock oiled by soft, warm, feminine hands, until I’m long and hard and glistening. I want to experience a touch that glides up and down my rigid flesh with a measured pace, that flows over my cock in drawn-out waves of leisurely sensation. I want subtle fingertips that tenderly stir my heavy balls, alluring palms that caress my shaft like it’s gossamer. I want to be teased and coaxed, to have my climax slowly drawn from my flesh, not propelled like a speeding bullet. Something a little more along the lines of this. But not just for the first few furlongs. I want it start to finish; green light to chequered flag.
Is a slow hand a sure route to orgasm? Is it a route at all? I don’t know. As I said, I’ve had twenty-four years succumbing to a contrary school of practice. But I’d like to find out. Even if it costs me, even if that slow hand draws me into madness. Because sometimes, when I’m lying back and MW’s languid hand is working my cock, I can easily imagine that being slowly drawn towards the edge of climax might be a quick way to insanity. And in the event that I weaken and beg for a quicker hand, a frantic touch, beg to be finished off there and then, damn the engines, full speed ahead, I want my whimpering pleas to be ignored, for that slow hand to continue its unhurried ministrations.
Slow.
Nice and slow.
Oh yes.
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Haha! You are very observant! I admit that I’ve never thought about slow all the way, and this has partly to do with the fact that I learnt my technique from porn, and partly to so with my poor knowledge of physics and biology. For some reason, I just assumed that a faster motion would bring out the cum … sort of like pumping water out of a well or something like that which requires added pressure to get the flow going. Now you’ve given me other ideas; although, I couldn’t help but notice that there was much more cum in the fast action clip.
Damn porn and its pre-conditioning! Seriously, I’m not sure that a slow hand will produce a orgasm. I know that The Joy of Sex mentions the technique of ‘Slow Masturbation’, but this seems chiefly aimed at delaying orgasm, and drawing out the pleasure in a semi-sadistic fashion. Even this technique talks about employing some fast hand strokes towards the end, to bring the individual’s suffering to a close. Maybe - like Einstein’s special relativity - a fast hand is an inescapable requirement, a barrier with no way past. Oh well. My instincts continue to tell me that it would be a deliciously drawn out way to come, and I’m prepared to persevere with my experiments, provided I can get MW to wear her lab coat at home.
As to amounts … I think that while the first clip I linked does show full-on male orgasm, the second shows the woman squeezing out a little pre-cum. I may well be wrong though. If the individuals concerned are out there, would they care to comment?
EA
I haven’t bothered to watch the clips, I’m not interested.
I do know that when it comes to oral, I go fairly slow until the end, but I do a few “quick passes” in between it all, just to heighten things.
I’ve followed the same approach (slow-quick-slow) in handjobs in the past and have yet to have an unsatisfied customer with that approach.
I do recommend it, though I can’t for the life of me imagine how it feels.
The Cunting Linguist
The use of contrast is an excellent way to heighten the response of a lover’s pleasure receptors. I’ve enjoyed reasonable success by immersing my tongue in a warm liquid, then cold, during oral pleasuring of my partner. But I’d really like to uncover the wealth of sensations that come from being drawn towards orgasm very, very deliberately, without any hint of speed…
~EA
What an interesting post, and one that I connect with - on the other side of the tracks.
Many years ago, a boyfriend introduced me to the slow stroke of his cock. He adored climaxing from the slow, seductive touch; telling me that it made his orgasm more intense as a result.
So, I spent much time watching him masturbate - and also exploring with my own hands - using these techniques: I learned a lot from him and discovered that it was in fact possible for men to climax from a slow movement, rather than just from the regular, fast jerking motion I was used to doing (and seeing).
Since then, I have tried to include this variety into the handjobs I give with a lover; I love to vary the intensity and sensation, so that he might enjoy different (and perhaps new) sensations in his cock.
Of course there is a time for a slow-hand job - and when he’s in need of a quickie, that’s not necessarily when a slow, sensative touch will be appreciated.
Though obviously, if teasing him is part of what turns him on, then I’ll gladly keep him on the edge with a slow seductive movement whilst he begs me to pump his cock as hard and fast as I can.
I do think that many (many) men are hard done by, by the masturbatory techniques they picked up when young; by learning how to climax via a fast pumping hand, they may not have explored what it would feel like to come via other means - and how much better their orgasms would feel as a result.
In fact many (bad lovers) have sex as if they were trying to just produce this end result, rather than enjoy the journey - it’s obvious that this is what is going on, when all they can do is pump and thrust: never mind how the woman might benefit - these guys do not seem able to understand that they can extend their OWN pleasure (and increase the intensity of their orgasms) by going at a different pace.
They are being robbed, in my opinion.
And I have taken it upon myself to show them different.
I couldn’t agree with you more, Girl. We men have been seduced (bludgeoned) by the onanistic experiences of our youth into viewing the end destination as the ultimate goal, at the expense of missing out on the vistas of a multitude of enjoyably prolonged journies. As such, your determination to reveal just what men are missing out on is most admirable.
It’s that slow, seductive touch you mentioned that I crave, as well as those intense orgasms your long ago boyfriend encouraged you to court. Here’s to the adventure…
~EA
I hope you will risk a few good spurts lost for the sake of some slow experimentation (and report back). My husband has a slow hand and it is intriguing (and completely enticing) to watch from start to finish.
Evidently, patience is an abundant commodity within the cave! Yes, I’m committed enough to risk a few good spurts in order to pursue this particular desire. I promise to report back once I’ve attained a definitive conclusion.
~EA
hmmm, I shall have to try the “slow hand from start to finish” technique on DanglyBits next time… Thanks for the idea!!
You’re most welcome. I hope DanglyBits has as good a time as I hope to…
~EA
Yeh slow does it for me, heightens the intensity of things but I never thought it would do it for a man. Damn porn and all it encompasses. I always assumed men just wanna come as quick as possible, which is partially why I get frustrated perfoming fellatio. I’ll remember this discusssion for next time. Weird thing is though, if more men stroked it rather than spanked it they’d probably take the same pace when with a partner and thus making love would be a more pleasureable experience for both parties.
Hello Sazzle.
This is only speculation, but I think that teenage boys are utterly seduced by the wondrous sensations of climax. Personally, I can’t recall any sensation from the years leading up to that first orgasm that even got close to matching it. And when you encounter something that overwhelmingly pleasurable, you want it again … and quickly. So, faced with the attributes of male genitalia and sexuality, and lacking the wisdom of experience (or of others) to guide them, teenage boys will endeavour to produce those same bewitching feelings again … and soon. Like, right now. From that initial moment of discovery, they learn not to focus upon the journey, but on the destination instead. And thus, the foundations for a hair-trigger - or worse, selfish - lover may well be started.
I guess some of those teenaged boys manage to acquire a touch of wisdom along the way, and learn to enjoy the journey as well as the destination. I’d like to think I have.
~EA
Interesting post.
When I masturbate I tend to go slow mainly to extend the experience. I find that going fast hastens the onset of orgasm too much while slow stokes make the experience last much longer.
My alternative is to alternate between the two, a series of quick stokes followed by a series of slow ones.
I also find the sensation on my cock hightened by slower strokes. It’s as if it feels the pressure more with slow strokes rather than quick ones.
I also prefer to go slowly for the final few seconds prior to orgasm when I find that the slowness increases the intensity of the experience.
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EE
Welcome, EE.
Your post would seem to be an instant case in point to my speculation that men can acquire the wherewithal to enjoy the journey as well as the destination. As to your final comment: there have been times, during sex, when my orgasm has almost seemed diminished when I’ve still been thrusting strongly as I came. As a counter, I’ll sometimes slow my thrusts right down just before the moment of climax, so that both MW and I can focus on the sensations. The results are usually exquisite, for both of us.
~EA
Slowly teasing, nearly agonizingly soft in its pace, drawing you further up the high mountain of pleasure till you are left lying almost dazed in clouds of need and desire. You long for the peak that is slowly nearing, wishing to rush and dive off it only to be brought there slowly. Restrained by your own desire to experience slow pleasure, you are drawn forward, ever nearing…till at last the peak nears, the cum gathered tight and high in your depths for so long erupts, but like the build up the release is long and pleasurable and feels never-ending…
I hope since this post you have tried this slow play
A lovely comment, SK. I can’t yet claim to have indulged/been indulged in the mysteries and pleasures of such slow play - not yet. Still, these things are best sprung on the unsuspecting. And who knows what’s around that next corner…
~EA
I delight in using a slow hand. As he nears climax, I might even slow more, my fingers tight around his shaft, sliding my thumb around and across the slick velvet of his taut, reddened cockhead. I revel in the feel of his erect lust in my hand, imagine my fingers melding with his flesh. Measured, deliberate strokes leave each separate nerve livid and aching for the next pass of my hand.
And now I’m very, very hungry indeed…
~EA